Sunday, April 23, 2006
sat down to the usual sunday night dinner with my family earlier, and shortly after we'd started eating, we heard yelling from downstairs. my bro (naturally) got up and ran to the window and i followed. soon, my parents joined us when the yelling did not stop.should have known - it was a couple fight. except that the guy had two friends with him and the girl had a friend with her and was completely ignoring the guy. so he's ranting about how he's trying to save the relationship but she's being a fucking bitch and not picking up his calls (hurhur) and she walks away and sits down on a bench near the putting green.
anyway, the rest of my family decided to call security because the guy just continued his verbal abuse, except for me, who kept on protesting that they should be left to sort out their problems. i got a rather mortified response from them and i had to keep on telling them to keep quiet and for goodness sakes stop sticking their heads outta the window and making it so obvious that they're watching!! apparently though, they were worried the guy would get violent and commit a crime of passion.
in the end, my mom went to call security, wondering why none of the neighbours weren't doing anything, but the guy and his gang left shortly after the girl refused to say anything.
even though the guy was like, some ah beng pai kia, somehow his frustrations were understandable. my bro was saying what an irony it was for him to say he wanted to salvage the relationship when he was talking to her like that. but while i do not condone that kinda ungentlemanly attitude (and would in no way tolerate being treated like that!) i could recognise that sorta behavior. it's not uncommon in relationships gone sour. somehow there'll be one party who feels so frustrated at the other party for whatever reason and still wants to make the relationship work,while the other person is indifferent to him/her, or is equally frustrated but wants out of the relationship because it patently isn't working.
well, since situations like that are complicated and ugly and to be avoided at all costs in a relationship - as cliche as it sounds it's important for those in a relationship to communicate openly with each other and of course, maintain good relations even after.
rachel at 8:36 PM